You may be sitting at your computer ready to click the upload button,

Picture up, profile up. You have spent many hours assembling a profile of who you are and what you want in a partner in crime. It is a beautifully crafted description of you magnificent and endearing personality traits.

Go for it, what do you have to lose, Start shopping for that man. Oh yes of course guys might be reading this so “that girl.” Almost time to start reading some profiles, but Wait!!!!
As a woman who is admitting to using this method of shopping/seeking  a partner in the past, I want to first give you some advice about internet dating. Meaning of the word advice below.

advice

/ədˈvaɪs/

noun

1. recommendation as to appropriate choice of action; counsel
2. (sometimes pl) formal notification of facts, esp when communicated from a distance

Not sure if my advice fits into formal notification of facts or just my opinion from experience after deep research and plenty of unfortunate encounters and finally a great encounter. Ok I can see you are losing interest and just wanting to look at that handsome stud on your computer screen, but pay attention just for a little longer. This could be critical in your end result. Put the men away for a moment, you can play with them later, this is secret woman’s business.
Let’s begin with his photo, of course the first thing that sucks you into the world of internet dating. Photos are one of the first things that attracts you to a profile. You like his smile etc. It would be great if they had a template section on dating sites that give an idea of what photos might be good. Seriously girls in the age of smart phones and selfies, is there any reason for him to have a bad photo? Or even to not have a photo of himself?
I mean, REALLY, a photo of a man leaning against a tree with sunglasses on that is not in focus is not good enough. What is he hiding? Doesn’t he want people to really see his incredible manliness because it might start a stampede?

The photo of the man all dressed up at a function with the obvious woman’s shoulder cropped out next to him? Please consider this is probably his ex and the fact that he is keeping the photo means he has probably not moved on. Surely he could find another photo? Oh yes and the man who decides to go the selfie and take a photo of himself in the bathroom mirror, no shirt on, with just a towel around his waist. You may stop to have a look at this photo, but please look past the towel, is the bathroom clean? Are their female bathroom products?

Those photo are you to see after you meet him, after all you don’t want your other internet dating girlfriends perusing the bathroom of the guy you might go out with? Besides seriously how much time does he spend in that bathroom?
Out of focus side shot of his face, followed by all distance shots. You know the ones where he is on the other side of the oval. Now please don’t think less of me for saying this or cruel and heartless, as I have met this man. He is cross eyed, and if I had known it might not have taken me so much by surprise.when I walked into the room and I didn’t not know if he was looking at me or the girl next to me. He was lovely by the way, but we just could on see eye to eye on things.

Then we have the man who has a really nice photo, and when you are looking at his profile you are thinking” Wow he is keeping himself well”, No Ladies he probably isn’t, his photo is ten years old. He looks great because he was probably dressed by his ex-wife. If he has no photo but sounds amazing, remember you don’t even buy a pair of shoes off the net without a picture. We need a nice photo of his face, dressed realistically. In saying this ladies, I also want to add that most men like to catch fish with their mates in a boat, they do not want their potential girlfriends displaying a fish face. Boy whoever though that was attractive? Of course if the man has a fish face, I would definitely keep searching?

We must also consider that whilst we share picture between our girlfriends of muscle bound beauties in jeans with bare chests. We are probably not going to end up with that guy. (Lucky you if you do though) Can he carry on a conversation? Is he employed? Can he remember to take out the rubbish? “YES” she says smiling as her man whom she found on the internet, gets up to take the rubbish down before the truck arrives.

If a man is really looking for somebody, he should make some effort to have some good photos of who he is. So in fact should you! Photos of what you look like now, not 12 years ago. It is not pleasant to meet at a coffee date and spend the whole time wondering if you are in fact with the person whose photo was on the dating site. Remember if you are looking for a life partner you should not start with deception. My partner and I’s photos were both recent and that made it far easier to meet in a crowed place. Photos ideas

• Headshot (not mug shot. You are not trying to look like your passport photo, and no don’t use that either). One of the best ways to get this photo is to go out with friends and have a really great day. Ask them to take some random photos of you during the day. When you look like you are having fun, you are far more attractive than if you are staring straight at the camera in stressed anticipation.
• A full body shot (dressed in what you might like to be seen in. Not some revealing outfit you wore to a hen’s night and would never wear any other time. But of course if that is what would normally wear go for it.
• A fun shot, if you travel, then maybe a recent travel photo, hobby etc.
  photos that depict you are always best.
• More of the above etc, Read my article on photos of me….

Your photo should depict who you are. You are not trying to attract people to what society may think is the perfect girl. You will get too tired pretending if you lie to start off with.